Ha, well, I've gone to several local shops. In Los Angeles, everyone who tints their windows gets illegal tints. It's just assumed that's what you want. If you ask about legality, the shop guys all say "70% is the minimum" for the front, and I see there's some reason to it as you explained, but then they offer darker tints for the front windows anyway as if we didn't talk about what we just did, and all the cars on their lot have dark front windows. One guy was different. He said (before I even asked anything), "You can't legally tint your front windows, so whatever we do here will be illegal. Okay?" I guess it's like speeding or rolling through Stop signs. We all do it, and hope not to get caught. Since this tinting is for my wife's car, I would prefer not to set her up with anything she has to worry about.
As far as enforcement, some police officers have a small tool they use to measure the VLT. I have no idea how common it is, but the tool exists. And you're supposed to carry a document from the installer with the film maker's specs on it (for front windows). I found one shop in the state that mentioned they'll give you the cert, but they're two hours away. Everyone local looked at me like I was nuts if I mentioned that.